Getting out of your head

Ever feel like your  stuck?

You have plans to change but you never really get anywhere with them.

You feel like you have the best ideas but never seem to start any projects.

You're doing well at work but not receiving the praise or promotions of your colleagues and peers.


I think everyone has felt like this at some point in there life. I used to feel like it all the time.

I want to share with you a couple of tips  to help get you moving along the way and get yourself out of your own way.

Over Analyser.

So first let's start with the over analyser. This is someone who fears making decisions at worst or at best thinks through all the possible eventualities before cautiously putting their toe in.

I don't mind being cautious, risk is risky! But there comes a point when you have to realise even the most important situations in everyday life will not cause major harm.

It is almost always better to make a decision and then do it than to sit on your hands until they become old and tired.

Get out of your head

As I said I used to struggle with this a lot. I would think about things day and night, decisions to make, decisions I've made, what to do for the nest, long term plans, short term plans, money worries etc.

It all builds up to a mess and just creates frustrations.

So get out of your head, do anything otherwise your going to explode!

Talk to people tell them what's on your mind, feel like no one will listen? Speak to a professional - doctors, peers, your boss. If you don't feel like you can talk to them, how about throwaway people, ones you meet in everyday life, don't just bulk unload on them though otherwise you may be labelled the crazy guy on the bus!

Get it down on paper, it often helps me to mind map a problem I'm working on, get those ideas on paper and properly evaluate them. Properly quantify the money troubles your having, nine times out of ten it really isn't as bad as you think. If it's worse, get help!

Just do it! This is my favourite way to get out of my head, you've been worrying about doing something for a while, get over yourself, nobody else really cares what you do with your life, so just break free of the worry and do it. Move to America, you don't like it? Move back.

I've noticed (whilst doing up my bathroom) that any mistakes you make you can rectify pretty easily, and if it goes completely disastrously (everyone has their own SHTF moment), you can start again and you'll have learnt from your journey to be better next time.

The Underachiever.

So you've had an alright kind of job for a while now, maybe a year or so but you don't feel like you're valued enough, you feel underpaid, tired of the strain and like maybe it's worth jumping ship. You don't feel like the company wants to promote you.

Well you're right, the company doesn't want to promote you. You have to make them!

You have to become the best at what you do. This means working smarter AND harder than everyone else.

Start taking pride in your work, whether it's delivering letters or counting broad beans. Be the most efficient most trustworthy candidate.

When you've created this value, then you have to work some more, this time at marketing yourself. Are you the person who's too shy to tell everyone how good you are? Or are too much of an introvert to go to parties? Get over yourself!

I know it's easy for me to say, but only because I've been there, the most successful way to move forward in your career is to get confident and use your new found confidence to ask for things. People won't just give you more money, you have to show them you're worth it and then ask for it.

Don't feel confident? Just fake it. After a while the confidence will become second nature and you'll feel like a new person!




Photo: The Monnie